On the RH-Bill: Why the Church reacts so?
We
say that when a man and a woman get married, they will share lives in full
confidence to each other…each will say: “I give myself to you”. It is a “mutual
self-giving”…for all life…”’til death
do us part”. Contraception is a path
of not sharing a part of oneself. What is this part? My fertility. I share all
that I am to you—all except my fertility. Our mutual self-giving has limits. We
will mutually self-give up to a certain
point which is our fertility. We are willing to have full confidence with
each other, except in terms of fertility. So a reservation is made.
This
opens the door to many other reservations. If fertility can be reserved, the
why not… We can imagine many things. We can reserve resources—“oh now I can
keep some for myself and not share”. We can reserve certain information—“oh now
I do not have to tell you what happened to me during the day”. We can reserve
friends—“Oh I do not have to tell you I have friendship with that person…and I
do not have to tell you what we do together”. Etc. Next thing we know, we ask
for a separation and divorce.
We
reserve more…we share less. The unconditional love professed during marriage
slowly falls apart. When contraception fails—and the wife becomes pregnant—the
door to abortion is next opened. See what contraceptive mentality is. It is a
cultural behavior that opens many doors.
Of
course there is, maybe, an exaggeration here. Surely there are married people
who have successful married lives even
while practicing contraception. But we try to appreciate the stand of the
Church.
What about the “natural
methods”? These involve watching closely
the ways of the wife’s body…So the intimate "physiology" of the wife must be
closely observed by the couple. This implies a dialogue between the husband and the wife. The dialogue will tell
both of them “when to do it”, that is, the conjugal act.
Can
this be done in an adult way? This is what the Church would like to say.
Self-regulation and matured treatment of the body and sexuality are part of the
“culture” of marriage. Today we seem to be so “free” with “sex”… How about a
serious, not hedonistic, approach to sex?
And
what about Onan? (See Gen 38/8-10). Well, it was about cheating…Onan was not true
to his word. The Church would not go for this style. It is not just a lack of
fidelity to what one says it is also about putting that to action. The “pulling
out” is cheating. He promised descendants…he was not true to his word…and he
pulled out. Many still doubt if this is wrong…. So the debate continues.
What this essay presents is a “very
conservative” discussion, we admit. In the world today where “sex” is “more
liberal”, the stand of the Church may, indeed, look so conservative. We try to appreciate what
the Church says. She talks about sex—and fertility. It is a “power” we have—something given
to us in creation. It is a power of the “male-female” that becomes “man-woman”.
This power puts a child in the world. It
is not a power to be joked with.
The
Church invites married couples to lead a
married life. There are ways of leading
this life. “You may…but”, as Genesis (Gen. 2/16-17) would put it. Not all means of birth
control are good, as the Church would say. Contraception
is a method that relies on lack of confidence and mutual self-giving of the
married couple. It is a way of refusing to “master your mastery”, again as
Genesis (Chapter 1) would say.
Yes,
the Church would go for “natural regulation” of birth. This requires maturity
and adulthood in marriage.
It
is understandable that priests and bishops react so strongly against the RH Bill. They have their manuals for confessions…
“handbooks”...references. Look at what the handbook for married people will say
about marriage and procreation:
“The virtue of conjugal
chastity ‘involves the integrity of the person and the integrality of the gift’,
and through it sexuality ‘becomes personal and truly human when it is
integrated into the relationship of one person to another, in the complete and
lifelong mutual gift of a man and a woman’. This virtue, in so far as it refers
to the intimate relations of the spouses, requires that ‘the total meaning of mutual self-giving and human procreation in the
context of true love’ be maintained. Therefore, among the fundamental moral
principles of conjugal life, it is necessary to keep in mind ‘the inseparable
connection, willed by God and unable
to be broken by man on his own initiative, between the two meanings of the
conjugal act: the unitive meaning and
the procreative meaning. The Church has always taught the intrinsic evil of contraception, that
is, of every marital act intentionally rendered unfruitful. This teaching is to
be held as definitive and irreformable. Contraception is gravely opposed to marital chastity; it is
contrary to the good of the transmission of life (the procreative aspect of
matrimony), and to the reciprocal self-giving of the spouses (the unitive
aspect of matrimony); it harms true love and denies the sovereign role of God
in the transmission of human life. (Vademecum
for confessors concerning some aspects of the morality of conjugal life Intro
2 and 2/4).
So
it is in the tradition of the Church, held by priests, of course, to refuse the
sexual act that is oriented to contraception.
Contraception is, so the handbook says, an intrinsic
evil. Conjugal love is always related with procreation. So even married
people stay chaste—this is conjugal
chastity. Contraception is opposed to this chastity. It is opposed to the
transmission of life—and transmission is in the will of God. It harms conjugal
love. Note what the handbook says: contraception
is irreformable.(So now we see why priests in the Philippines are so firm
in their stand…this is what their handbook says!
If
we think back to Genesis, this handbook seems to be saying that
the human being is a “steward” of creation. The human being is not the owner of
the world. Procreation is part of stewardship. God creates, the human
pro-creates.
Ok,
so we try to understand our priests and bishops. More than less, we see the "maturity" in Church thinking. The Church has a high regard for the human person--that the human person is really capable of discerning and self-regulating. We make a final word.
We
have seen what the Church has done during the hot debate. We have seen Church
people…including Bishops and Religious people…go to congress and be visible in
their lobby against the RH Bill.
But there is also a limit
to lobbying for and to rallying against…. “You may, but” (Genesis 2/16-17)…this
rule applies even to Church people. Certain manifestations of Church people
need to be questioned. When a big storm hit Mindanao and killed innocent people
and destroyed so much properties, we cannot say that it was due God’s refusal
of the RH Bill. When individuals wear pro-RH shirts and go to mass, must they
be castigated in front of the crowd…and must the communion be preferential
against them?
What has the Church done to
educate the parishioners regarding the debate? To simplify the issue and say
that there are only two types of people—the “pro” and the “anti”—is to over simply the issue and to treat people
naively. If the Church is the assembly of all members—not just of priests
and religious—then the ordained ministry is duty bound to educate the faithful.
The maintenance of faith is part of the ordained priest’s job anyway.
Finally, to make a
political stand on the RH issue and tell people who to vote and not vote….Well,
does this not make the Catholic Church a “political party”? Banners and tarpaulins
are set up inside parish church compounds. Written are persons not to vote for and
persons to vote for. This is a political campaign done by the parish! This is
not the way of the Church. Already the Philippine Church said this a long time
ago: "The Church's competence in passing moral judgments even in matters
political has been traditionally interpreted as pertaining to the clergy.
Negatively put, the clergy can teach moral doctrines covering politics but
cannot actively involve themselves in partisan politics. Religious men and
women are also included in this prohibition" (PCP-II, 340). But lay people
have competence in active and direct partisan politics. (PCP-II, 341). The
laity may do partisan politics…but cannot use the parishes for their
advocacy.